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With everything going on in the world I wanted to find a way to connect with the boys and teach them BLACK history as well as to help them understand the beauty in their skin. Reading has always been a fun escape for me I get lost in reading. I randomly said you know what I’m going to create an age appropriate Black Reading corner for the boys.
What do I mean by black? I mean black characters, authors and illustrators. Why? Well I could only compare my child hood to how the boys are being raised currently. I grew up knowing I was black but I was insecure about my skin about my hair everything about me. Although I was being raised by beautiful strong black woman and men I would go into other spaces or simply watch to much Disney where majority of the characters didn’t look like me or come from similar backgrounds.
I was in shock to find so many good books on amazon. I ordered the books right away and purchased the acrylic floating shelves from amazon. I preferred the shelves because Mahir is 2 and I was sure if I purchased a book shelf he would climb it. The books ranged from $3.99-$16.99. I added in a chair we had around the house from Ikea and boom it was complete.
I wanted to be sure that my children would not only actively read but read to understand. Words mean nothing if you aren’t taking your time to imagine the vision of what your reading. Reading became more personal after attending an HBCU. During undergrad I learned myself and began to appreciate and own what being black truly is.
Excuse me for the language but you won’t feel me unless I slide this tea in. One of my favorite poems “Fuck I look like” by Kai Davis she says “White people told us niggas not to read 300 years ago, and now niggas telling other niggas not to read, what are we afraid of”. When I listened to those words back in 2012 it spoke to me not only do I enjoy reading but my ancestors where purposely told not to read in fear of what WE could become. This is not to make everything racial or political but to inform others.
I’m teaching my boys daily that reading is cool and that the mind should never stop expanding and growing. This is not to knock others culture rather your Irish, Latino or in between giving our children diverse books or books they can relate to sets them up for a future of being confident in who they are and where they come from.
My favorites so far are “Woke Baby” by Mahogany Browne. This read is perfect for children 3 and under. My favorite for ages 5 and up would be “I am Positive affirmations for brown boys” by Ayesha Rodriguez. This book was essential with the current state in America with black lives matter and police brutality. I wanted my son to know he is valuable, loved and a King. What are you guys reading lately?
I know, I know how dare me just show up with a random Tip Tuesday and not explain why I been gone so long and not consistent. Welp, this pregnancy has gotten the best of me but that’s a story for a different day. SOON! On today we are going to talk pregnancy and fitness I’m sharing five of my tips.
1. Find what works for you- I’ve tried pregnancy yoga which is not for me I just but then I took my normal aerobics routine and cut out ab workouts and notice that my body prefers that more than being zen. Even if your thing is walking start with maybe doing a slight 15 min a day.
2. Me time- When I’m at the gym yes people stare because of my belly but I’m pregnant not an alien. It’s completely normal to hit gym while pregnant just in moderation. Gives me my time to think ohhh and be toddler free to catch up on Greys Anatomy .
3. Labor and delivery- I delivered Kai at 35 weeks, he came out 7lbs 8 oz which is pretty big for a baby at his gestational age. The one thing I remember clearly is labor being a breeze 5 hrs. I can say remaining active was a big help during my labor I was able to push without getting tired and I was able to fight through majority of my contractions. I even went hiking in LA at 6 months pregnant last time.
4. Hydrate- I recommended just taking a whole gallon to the gym yes you will go potty a lot but you and baby will be hydrated. Being dehydrated can sometimes cause contractions I’ve learned the hard way.
5. Know your limits- Look your growing life so your goal should be to just be active and healthy. Don’t try to feed into social media and be the pregnant woman with abs.
Just get going, don’t wait. I will admit it’s easiest to workout during second trimester. I’m no fitness guru but I know what works for me and I hope these tips can help you.
Bonus Tip: The more active you are during pregnancy the easier snapping back will be.
Growing up I spent many holidays in Los Angeles with my family. I remember when we all packed up and went to Disney the only problem was I was afraid of rides and characters at the time.
My little one has had an obsession with Mickey Mouse since he could stand and we had already went to Disney on Ice countless times so what was next? Disneyland. Off we went on a 6am flight landed at LAX breakfast then on to Disneyland. What was even greater is that our tickets to the park where free talk about a savings and they came with fast pass so no waiting in line.
The park had plenty of rides for my little one who is thirty five inches tall. From turkey legs to the tea cups we had a blast. So much of a blast I looked into his stroller at only 7pm and he was sleeping mouth open and all.
I left the theme park with memories to last a life time. To see his smile and him jumping for joy was well worth the exhaustion that my body is feeling right now. Now we are on to Knotts Berry Farm to see Snoopie.
Father’s Day is that special day sat aside for dads. I’m more of the creative type who puts a lot of thought into gifts. We must give credit where credit is due the role of a father is so important in a child’s life for little gents the father can be a role model and for little ladies he’s a a first love. You don’t have to splurge to get a thoughtful gift that dad will enjoy and cherish here’s a few tips.
1. Hand crafts aka DIY- Last year we made Dad a story booked filled with meaningful photos and went with a super hero theme for the captions. The total cost of the project was less than $10. There’s tons of DIY gifts on Pinterest.
2. Cook- a way to a mans heart is through his stomach make dad a nice brunch or a big dinner.
3. Groupon- if dad likes kick boxing, movies or rock climbing there’s always deals on groupon.
4. Sports Tickets- if dad likes soccer, basketball or even football stubhub comes in handy with affordable tickets, some baseball games as low as $11.
5. Customize it- It could be a tie clip, watch case or even jewelry the little extra touch goes a long way.
6. Be sure to plan ahead- the more time you put in the better the gift will be.
7.Give dad more attention than mom the entire day, not only will it make mom jealous but dad will feel appreciated.
Ultimately don’t be the last min card from the grocery store type of gift. These were simple tips to help get the creative Father’s Day ideas going. So what are you getting DAD for Father’s Day?
Traveling with a Toddler can be hectic here are a few tips to make things a little easier.
Even though this wasn’t our little ones first flight it was hands down his most active. His first flight he slept the entire flight. Now that he’s approaching two that’s changed the plane seems to be one big playground for him. Here are a few tips for traveling with a toddler.
1. Backpack- Kai is at the age where he wants to be independent so we pack him a small backpack full of snacks diapers and small toys.
2. Headphones- I found the perfect headphones for toddlers at Five Below.
3. Crayons and Coloring book- It was easy to fold down the eating tray and allow him to use it as a desk to color away.
4. Download Movies in advance- The week of our trip I downloaded 5 movies to his IPad of course “Minions” made the cut.
5. Book flight during nap or sleeping times- This works for us Kai naps between 11am-2:30 roughly every day. His bedtime is 9:30pm so we travel during those hours he’s relaxed and sleeping soundly.
6. While walking through airport or aircraft Daddy led the way Kai followed and I held down the back this way toddler can run ahead or fall behind airports can be hectic. With the system of one parent infront and one in back it allowed us to stay together as well give our child some independence.
7. Airport Stroller- I will never take our nice jogging stroller to airport simply because things can get lost and I’d rather it be something cheap and inexpensive as well as the cheap strollers are more portable.
8. Lastly pack a small snack for each out of the flight- 4 hour flight I’d pack a granola bar, yougurt, veggie sticks, and fruits. Food is a distraction.
9. Pack toddler bags in advance- toddler clothes and gadgets are easier to forget because they are smaller packing ahead allows you to be organized.
Traveling with a young child or a toddler can be unpredictable the best thing to do is make little one as comfortable as possible. If none of these tips help order a wine and plug your ears. That was just a joke. Enjoy your travel and be sure to like and subscribe to our blog.
Want to know how I plan and threw Kai’s first birthday on a budget?
For us the first birthday party was a BIG DEAL. Which brought both sides of the family together. When I say we all had more fun than the birthday boy, it was a celebration to remember.
1.Theme- My original baby shower theme was carnival, so when we choose to go with Sesame Street it was easy to use some of the pre purchased decorations.
2. Venue- Our town home was too small to accommodate the 50+ guest list so we decided to rent our Aunts club house.
3. Cake- I always loved Jerrae’s (justjerrae_and.kam) cakes she would post, she gave me the contact to @CraftyCakes very reasonable price and sweet owner .The cake was delicious and served as my desert days after the party had passed.
4. Invitation- The invitations cost me less than $10 from Etsy.
5. Activities- Bounce house , Musical Chairs, Face paint, Tattoo Station.
6. Decorations- My Favorite part…. But before I go any further shout out to my family for helping paint decorate arrange and most importantly take the stress off me. Most of the decorations came from Ernies, Party City and we got the helium tank to cut cost of having balloons blown up for us.
7. Food- The Nigerian food was catered and their was plenty to go around. My uncle prepared most of the American Food.
8.Photography- We were very lucky to have my friend Alicia(ah_lee
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*For a Bonus we had a candy station filled with cotton candy, cup cakes, candy apples. As well DJ.
The most important part for us was seeing our little boy smile, even though he slept through most of the party. We cut many cost by doing things ourselves or looking around for the lowest price possible. I would strongly suggest parents with children under two to have some activities or food for parents and adults. This keeps things lively. Lastly I would like to thank our family, friends, and vendors for helping with the special day.